IT IS THEM, NOT YOU!

                            HEY FAMILY!

If your anything like me than you have experienced the feeling of "why me?" right?. Like someone is always mad at you? Like you can be genuinely happy for someone else's growth and success, but when you experience God in the same way, they can barely crack a smile for you? 

Seems like in the moments you expect to be loved and celebrated, you find yourself standing alone. Hearing nothing but the beat of your own heart and Gods' voice. (sometimes just your heart) Well I am here to tell you that you are not alone! I have been on the receiving end of these emotions far too many times. Every time I found myself there, I also found myself blaming myself. 

"I shouldnt have shared"

"I shouldnt have said that"

"I shouldve said more"

"I shouldve stayed longer"

"I shouldnt have went"

All of these thousadns of self sabotaging thoughts that placed the blame of what other people thought about me.. think about me and how they feel about me, ON ME. Now, it took me years and I do mean YEARS to realize how crazy that sounded. Why am I responsible for how THEY feel?

Understand, that at one point in my life, a very long point, I wasn't the greatest person outwardly because I was such a broken person inwardly. (this could be the case for them as well) I had taken hit after hit and never stopped to nurse the wounds of any of those hits. Just kept on going and that pain turned into evil. So in those times, yes I was responsible! 

Clearly If you are a mean person then you cant expect people to treat you like your a sweetheart, but today isn't about those times. Today is about when you have grew into a better person. Your giving your all and walking in alignment. Your smiling, sowing, pouring, and praying. You're even forgiving again.

But no matter what you do, it just seems like people just do not like you. They smile at you, then curse you in their mind. Tell you they love your hair, but tell others you do too much. They tell you how powerful you are, but call you cocky the moment you turn your back. If  I learned anything about these kind of people it is this..HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT YOU IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!

When I get stuck in these moments, these moments of not understanding how i can try so hard to be acceptable to the those around just to not be accepted at all, I look to Gods' word. I lean on it. I stand on it. His word tells me that whatever has set out, cant return to him void. (Isaiah 55:11) This means eventually, they will come around. The ones who don't, well they weren't meant to. God has a plan for us all and he knew that this complicated time was coming. So he is already prepared to love us through it. He is still there, with open arms, holding love and grace in his hands ready to pour it out unto you. 

Your job is not to make other people accept you, its not even to make them like you. Your job is to do what God has called you to do. You have been given an assignment and that IS your business How other people feel about you is NOT! So sister listen to me, do not let how other people feel about you slow you down. Do not let it cripple you. If you do then you will always end up right where you are, stuck. You will look up and realize that you are giving those irrelevant situations more time and attention then you are giving your assignment from the Lord. Don't believe me?

Watch this.

Has there ever been a time where something happens or someone offends you so bad that you spend your whole day talking about it to anybody who will listen, even yourself. Even in your alone time you catch yourself responding to your own thoughts and getting caught daydreaming about the way you want to react ? Then by the time you look up its late in the day and you haven't accomplished anything you wanted to accomplish that day? 

Yeah, I know. Me too.

Listen I am just like you. I have done all of the above. I also had to come to a place that I made a decision that it didn't matter that much. Now understand something, just because your taking your attention off of it doesn't mean you are saying the way you were treated or not treated was okay. You are not giving them a pass or letting them get away with it. You are just giving it God because in the end, he hits harder than you. I'm not speaking from the place of an expert either. I am speaking from the place of a Christian woman who is going from being bitter to better. I am learning all of this myself and simply sharing the knowledge.

It is THEM. They have to figure out why your light bothers them. They have to figure out why your power makes them feel small. They have to figure out why they purposely do things to make you look bad or hurt you. They have to figure out why they frown at your blessings, but smile at your pain. They have to talk and answer to God for that. They have to dig inside themselves and find out what made them bitter, then get better. IT IS THEIR BUSINESS, NOT YOURS! So after today I want you to do one thing for me. 

LET

IT

GO!

Give it to God. Pray about your pain. Then immediately after that, move on!

If this spoke to anyone, leave a comment! I get a lot of readers but im always interested in your thoughts when your done reading! Leave a comment below and I will talk to you again soon!

Your Sister,

EIT Symone 💛

ISAIAH 55:11:

"So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it."